Downloads and Documents

Below is a collection of documents from various sources. These publications are from trusted transgender specific or LBGT groups, organizations, and projects. The information has been categorized under the group it best fits, however, some may apply to multiple categories. You’re encouraged to browse this entire page, and if you can’t find what you are looking for, contact us.


Becoming a Better Ally 

Transcend North Iowa’s publication, adapted from MIT’s “Action Tips for Allies of Trans People.”

guide to being a trans ally

This guide will help you learn more about what transgender means, develop competency around talking about the issue, become better informed about the challenges that many trans people face, and know specific ways that you can be a strong trans ally.

Our Trans Loved Ones

Our Trans Loved Ones is a brand-new, updated resource. Written by PFLAG staff members, and created with the help of content experts, reviewers, and PFLAGers with experience to share, it is full of information, first-person stories, and expert input geared to those who have a loved one who has come out as trans or gender expansive.

Families & Parenting

Affirming vs Non-affirming Parenting Behaviors

This information applies to all types of relationships with children, not just parent/child relationships.

5 Tips for Raising Gender Nonconforming Children

Parenting is tricky enough, but what if your six-year-old son asks you if he could dress up as Tinkerbell in the school play? Or, if your daughter wonders if she could attend school as a boy?

Communicating with Family and Friends about Your Child’s Gender 

Key concepts in preparing family and friends who do not know about your child’s gender to help make sure your child’s interactions with them will be positive.

General / Other Information

Transgender Individuals and Gender Identity

Answers to your questions from the Amrican Psychological Association

Glossary of Related Terms

Transcend North Iowa’s expanded collection of transgender, non-binary, and gender nonconforming related words, terms and phrases.

Understanding Non-Binary People

How to be respectful and supportive. A publication of National Center for Transgender Equality

Changing bodies to match gender identity

Gender-expansive and transgender kids do not have to change their bodies in order to change their gender expression or identity. Learn more from the Gender Spectrum.

Dating and Relationships

Advice on dating, love, and relationships for gender-expansive young people.

The WHY, WHEN, and HOW of Coming Out

 Questions to consider when coming out.

What is Gender?

Learn about gender biology, gender expression, and gender identity


Puberty Blockers & Puberty Inhibitors

What are they and how do they work?

Safer Sex for Trans Bodies

This is a safer sex guide for transgender and gender expansive people, and their partners and lovers. When it comes to sex, there’s a serious lack of resources available to trans people that talk about our bodies and our needs in a relatable and respectful way. Whitman-Walker Health decided to make a guide, specifically for trans and gender expansive people, that helps answer questions about safer sex.

Veterans Health Administration Transgender Healthcare

Information about the VHA’s directive establishing a policy of respectful delivery of healthcare to transgender and intersex veterans.

Identity Documents & Privacy

Iowa Guide To Changing Legal Identity Documents

The following are the petitions for change of name in the state of Iowa. Use these documents in counties which do not use EDMS (electronic documents). If your county clerk of court uses EDMS, you will need to fill the petitions online. These may be helpful in preparing for ether method.

Written Consent for Minor Name Change

This document is an example of written consent as required in Iowa for a minor child 14 years of age or older.

State-by-State Overview: Rules for Changing Gender Markers on Birth Certificates

The policies for changing gender markers on birth certificates vary state by state, resulting in a complicated patchwork of processes across the country. This document gives an overview of which states a process for updating gender markers on birth certificates, and provides the basic outline of what those states’ policies look like. Updated: December 2016

Legal & Laws

TRANSGENDER RIGHTS TOOLKIT: A Legal Guide for Trans People and Their Advocates

Within this Transgender Rights Toolkit, readers will find answers to many questions that transgender people and their advocates may ask as they navigate through life. This toolkit is meant to be a resource and advocacy tool designed to educate and empower a community often left outside the walls of power.

Mental Health & Therapy

Lets Talk About it! A Transgender Survivor’s Guide to Accessing Therapy

It can feel scary to reach out to someone when you are in a vulnerable or emotional state. Sometimes it is also hard to know what to say or do after making contact with another person. This guide helps.

Religion & Faith

Best Practices for Religious, Faith and Spiritual Leaders

This guideline aims to create a starting place for religious, faith and spiritual community leaders to deepen their own understanding of gender, gender inclusion and gender sensitivity when it comes to the incredibly important role they play in their congregates’ lives.


Safe Schools Nondiscrimination Laws

Map of which states have clear gender identity and sexual orientation protections.


Know Your Rights: Airport Security and Transgender People

This guide answers common questions trans people may have about airport security procedures and outlines steps individuals can take to prevent and respond to problems at the airport.

Youth & Students

Talking with Young Kids about Gender

Many adults feel nervous talking about gender with kids. They worry that they won’t say the right thing or maybe they don’t know what to say at all. Here are a few key concepts about gender, some language you might use, and some conversation starters/tips you may want to try with the kids in your life.

Letter on Transgender Students

Guidance from the U.S. Dept. of Justice and the U.S. Dept. of Education regarding Title IX of the Education Amendments and its implementing regulations in educational programs and activities operated by recipients of Federal financial assistance.

Fact Sheet: Gender Diversity and Transgender Identity in Children

Gender diverse children (also known as gender non-conforming, gender creative, or gender variant) express their gender in ways that are not consistent with socially prescribed gender roles or identities.

KNOW YOUR RIGHTS: A Guide for Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students

You have the right to be safe and to be yourself at school. That is why the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) and GLSEN have put together this guide to inform you of your rights.